January 2012
3 posts
caramelmartini asked: I LOVE your recent piece on the Ghanaian Dream Jessica! do continue to enlighten me and many others with your writing :)
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The Ghanaian Dream
I feel like I’m always apologizing for something here now lol. I’m on break, but haven’t had internet for about a week and so I apologize for you not hearing more from me, even though I’ve had a lot of time on my hands. Christmas in Ghana for me is really just higher level socializing, networking and relaxation. No complaints here.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
2012 needs to be a big...
December 2011
4 posts
akrofikoram asked: You're amazing. Can't say it enough.
niiadom asked: JESSICA!! Tu me manques!! Je t'aime!! x
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5 year-old virgin
I haven’t told a story in a while, so I figured my ‘return-from-the-dead’ post should be it. This is a story every girl should remember, especially if they’re as lovey dovey as I have the tendency to be.
My first kiss didn’t quite happen the way it was supposed to. Yes, there’s a protocol for the way these sorts of things are suppsed to happen. The memory of a...
makeupbysharms asked: jessica your last post was in september :/ we are in december now... whyyy are you depriving us
September 2011
3 posts
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A Real Coming of Age story
I’m a big girl now!! I’m a big girl now!!!
All people want to talk to me about are things like apartment hunts, and rent, and jobs, and marriage, and degrees and menopause. I kid on the last one… but, boy do I feel old.
I’m a Senior at Duke University, trying to shape my future, acting like I know what I’m doing until I can effortlessly play the role I want to, or...
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“A woman must continually watch herself. She is almost continually accompanied by...”
– John Berger, Ways of Seeing (via stellablu)
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August 2011
4 posts
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30-Day Challenge - Day 15: Your zodiac/horoscope...
I think, therefore I am Pisces.
Aside from a few traits that I rarely exhibit, I feel like I am a Pisces through and through. It’s not always a good thing, but I understand myself better, and don’t wonder as much why it’s in my nature to feel certain ways.
I’ve always been a dreamer. Growing up while most of my siblings were not playmate age meant that I’ve always...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 14: What you wore today
I honestly cannot remember what I wore that day. I think I went to a barbecue and wore a short summery/lacy dress. But it could have been the day before or after.
So. Today I’m at work and I have on black high waisted pants… I’m wearing a magenta button up and some sensible 2.5” heeled peep toe shoes lol.
I have gold accessories on and I’m wearing my hair in my...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 13: Your opinion about your...
Like every woman, I have aspects of my body/self that are not my favorite. There are some things I appreciate, as anyone with healthy self-esteem should, but I am by no means 100% satisfied with it, nor can I remember a time when I have ever been. I strive to make my skin my top priority, and now, as much as I hate to call it this, I’ve jumped on the natural hair bandwagon and become...
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You Know I'm No Good...
Hey y’all.
So don’t say I didn’t warn you.. I flaked on this 30-Day Challenge just like I knew I wouuuld, I told you I was trouble!! you know, I’m noo goood *dance break* and a RIP to my girl Amy on that unrelated note…
I had good reason though. I am recovering from tonsillitis now, and it had me knocked out for about a week. Couldn’t swallow, or talk much...
July 2011
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Day 1 - Five Ways To Win Your Heart
directionlessness:
1. PICK UP YOUR PHONE WHEN I CALL YOU (-_-)
2. Have a great sense of humor and personality - not too dominating though
3. Have patience
4. Smell good (Body-wise and Buccal Cavity-wise LOL), have beautiful teeth and clean hands
5. Just appreciate me for who I am
This is more than 5…OH WELL!
:) AYY-MEN
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30-Day Challenge - Day 12: Five guys whom you find...
This day’s post is real dumb. Um. Am I supposed to talk about guys I know? It’s kind of pointless really…
1. Err. Ok. Micheal Ealy would have to be on this list. I don’t have any words, just a photo. Look at him. Beautiful, beautiful man. God bless your life.
2. McSteamy. Eric Dane. My type of Caucasian male. Such a sexy man. With his salt and pepper beard. Yum. Spicy,...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 11: Family
I have a pretty complex family. I have more siblings than most of my friends, but I’m also the one most like an only child. I have four older brothers and an older sister. I used to have a little brother, but he died when we were both really young; I was four, he was three. Read the only post I’ve mentioned him in here.
My mother has two kids, and my father has five. Altogether they...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 10: Put your music player...
Idk how I feel about most of these random selections…
Schoolin’ Life- Beyonce
Me and Mr Jones- Amy Winehouse
How Do I Say- Usher
One Love- Trey Songz
Move back (Muje Baya)- 5Five
First Love- Adele
Through the Wire- Kanye
Superstar- Lauryn Hill
Peace Sign/Index Down -Gym Class Heroes
Donk- Soula Boy :-/
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Marathon Tumblr posting session :-/
I’m at my internship (which has been an absolute bore so far, but more on that later probably), and one of the side-effects is that after work I hang out with friends who work close-by, and then I get home and crash. Immediately. I slept at 8.30 on Wednesday night. A G like me.
Anyway, I’ve missed 4 days. (Surprise surprise lol). So I’m about to make them up now… I’m...
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30-Day Challenge: Day 9 - How Important you think...
How do I make this sound less like an essay and more like a blogpost…
Education is really, really, really important. It’s such a great thing. And it keeps getting more and more important every day as more people start to appreciate (and reap) its benefits. Like now, I wouldn’t be at my internship not feeling useful and hating it if I had a degree. The sad part about how...
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30-Day Challenge: Day 8 - What I ate today
Today’s probably the worst day to have to write on this…
Breakfast: Nothing
Lunch: Yam chips and wings from Honeysuckle, c/o my wonderful friend Adwo
“Dinner”: Soursop smoothie from Melting Moments
After Dinner: Hookah from Chase… does this count as food?
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30-Day Challenge - Day 7: Five Pet Peeves
It is my bed time :|
I’m beginning to wonder who begged me to do this 30 day challenge… it’s now like homework lol. This will be short since I need to get up at 6am for the first day of my internship at the Institute of Economic Affairs. Yaaay. I love 6am.
1. Club shenanigans
I’ve always known this one annoyed me, but it became even clearer to me last night. I hate being...
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Shocking: The rape of men →
Very valuable exposition. Physically hurt me to read it.
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30-Day Challenge: Day 6 - My Views on Mainstream...
Things that annoy me about mainstream music:
It’s always the same five songs in constant heavy rotation on the radio- especially true in the US. (Deuces anyone?)
I may not like a song when I hear it but I can rest assured that the force will have me singing or at least appreciating it to some extent after I’ve been beaten over the head with it enough times (Case in point: Over -...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 5: Things I want to say to...
It just so happens that I’m on speaking terms/have a cordial relationship with everyone I’ve ever dated… so I could really just say to them whatever this post is asking me to write :-/
Err.. but let’s see. *clears throat*
Some of you could certainly do better lol. Also, I’m only showing up at your wedding if I’m already married and the man I married is...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 4: Bullet Your Whole Day
9:15am- Woke up, rolled over and checked my cellphone
9:45am- Opened my laptop and bojangled on youtube, facebook and twitter for a while
10:30am- Thought about starting my 8-5 next week and died silently
11:00am- Crawled out of bed, took a shower, dressed up
12:15pm- Helped my mother pack for a weekend trip (No parents at home this weekend, *skype party hat smiley*)
1:00pm- Went to go find...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 3: A Book I love
I can’t pick just one… should be it a classic, a life-changing biography or a book I loved to read growing up?
I chose The Girl Who Can and other stories by Ama Atta-Aidoo, a renowned Ghanaian author and playwright. I read this book alllll the time during my err.. ‘formative’ years. I loved it… took it everywhere with me. I think I need to read it again. I feel...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 2: Something I feel...
Day 2, and I’m slipping already! Meant to post this before I fell asleep last night… Not exactly what i’d call well-written, but here ya go.. will post Day 3 a little later on in the day.
I’m not sure what direction I want to go with this post… since it’s so general. I feel strongly about several things, to different degrees. How do I pick just one?
...
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30-Day Challenge - Day 1: Five ways to win my...
1. Mind over matter
I enjoy the company of people who are smart, well-read, worldly and eloquent. I like people who can teach me something. People who can converse easily and allow discussions to flow comfortably. I love quick wit. Nothing breaks my heart like realizing the person I’m talking to doesn’t actually get my jokes or references I might make.. :-/ Or doesn’t think The...
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30- Day Challenge
I’m horrible at sticking with things, well pertaining to this blog at least. I’m not even going to front, I will be immensely proud of myself if I make it to the end of this challenge. It seems very difficult, but another blogger sent it to me, and I think I might just take a stab at it :)
June 2011
3 posts
Anonymous asked: Hey.. I enjoyed your 'for the seekers' post. was a little more on the gloomy side but I was nodding through the entire thing. I think a lot of people compare others to their exes, I know I've been there. If the post is about your life, I'm sure you'll get through it somehow, if not, thanks for writing anyway!
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Dana SHUM Photography's Water For Breakfast
New header, c/o Dana Shum. I’m loving it! Those who have seen Dana’s work know how beautiful it is. Please ‘like’ her Facebook page: DANA SHUM PHOTOGRAPHY and support her photography.
Thank you so much, Dana… appreciate your life! Now I want a photoshoot….
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For the seekers
I blame you first love, for being so great. Fuck your greatness, fuck your thoughtfulness, fuck your attention and love. Fuck your conversation the most. You were only supposed to be a sip. Nope. You turned into the tallest, coolest, sweetest, most refreshing drink of my life.
Welcome to my sad new reality since you’ve been gone. It’s a universe where every soul lives in your shadow,...
May 2011
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Tribute to the Black Woman
Beautiful woman, you get nowhere close to enough love. You’re overlooked way too often, taken for granted, and the world reacts with indifference to news of your mistreatment. You’re gorgeous, inside and out. And you originate from Africa, my Africa.
Vogue Italia’s tribute to the African woman is beautiful. Enjoy reading it- my soul soaked in each word. Enjoy the pictures too...
April 2011
14 posts
Anonymous asked: Hello! If you love the vintage or African style look, check out my jewelry! My earrings are one of kind. It's guaranteed that no one will have the same ones. It's time to stand amongst the crowd and CU Different! =] Start the tread and post the link on your blog! Thanks! =]
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At least pretend you care...
I told him he complained too much and that he fiends for my attention like an addict. I told him I wouldn’t mind paying some, but only once the stakes were raised. (I told him in my head.)
I realized that everything about him equaled perfection, all if it… oh, except for he himself. My closest friends could see it. They could look into the crystal ball called our friendship and tell...
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A Beautiful Mind
Hey I’m in class so I have on my serious-note-taking face. 8-|
I guess this will have to be short, but I just had to share. I realized I was attracted to someone who I had never really thought of as particularly attractive. It blew me away a little bit, because objectively speaking, I’ve been (for the most part) overly concerned with pretty boys, and haven’t had too many...
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Watch
CLICK THE SQUARES.
THE WHOLE WORLD NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THIS.
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Study break!! This girl on youtube re-made the...
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“Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman...”
– - This is written in the Hebrew Talmud,
the book where all of the sayings and
preachings of rabbis are conserved over time
sikagolden asked: I recognize you! You were either on my flight back from GH on in the long line of international students @ the immigration whatever in Washington. Hi!
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Watch______________________________________________________________________________
This documentary is hilarious but not really, lol. I’m not really going to delve too deeply into how it makes me feel about today’s man. I don’t want to generalize though, it’s not all of them. Some men try to act like they are soo down to earth; try to act like when they go out, they only stop...
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Oh...nice guy like you?
Hello hello hello
I’m in a great mood! And it’s not even for any wonderful reason. The sun is shining (80F!!), I had a relaxing weekend during which I smiled a lot, I’m kinda sorta on top of my work, and I’m wearing a dress! Yayyy, Summer is nigh.
But moving on…
I just read this post from hilarious blog run by a random Nigerian girl who used to call herself Emosh,...
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Major cravings! So clearly, I thought I'd force...
:’(
who's gettin some SEX TONIGHT!!!
kushkrazy:
March 2011
24 posts
dejaseesbrooklyn asked: dope blog :)